What's your Love Language?

Book Review -> "The Five Love Languages"

I feel that Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" is one of
universal standards for understanding yourself and the
people around you. It makes simple distinctions between
actions and the way different people perceive them.

Basically, he breaks down Love into Five Categories of
action that we all yearn for in some degree. We each have
a primary and secondary language, ways in which we truly
enjoy and receive love and count it as true affection.

When you receive love in YOUR language you really feel
Loved and often you expect others to express their love
in your language too.

Here are his categories:

Words of Affection: Hearing or being complemented
on your best features, best actions or just that you are loved.
You feel appreciated and recognized for who you are.

Quality Time: Spending time with others talking about
deep/complex topics or doing activities together as a team.
You feel deeply connected when you have quality time.

Receiving Gifts: Getting gifts has special meaning to you
and often you treasure them as evidence that you are loved
and who you are loved by. You might look at your gifts to
remind yourself that you are loved.

Acts of Service: You know you are loved when someone
helps you with a task or does a task for you. Their help
proves to you that they deep care for your well being and
will be therefor you in a time of need.

Physical Touch: When you are hugged, held, or touched
you feel a sense of relief and safety. When you are touched
you know you are loved and things are okay for now.

Just notice:
Which Languages you resonate with...
Which Languages you give to others frequently...
Which Languages others give to you often...
Which Languages seem "strange" or "odd"

The people in your life you feel close to probably share at least
one Language with you. Often people that are hard to "get" are
expressing love in a foreign Language and the way they say "I
Like You" isn't getting translated they way they expect it to.

Look for Languages in answers to these questions:
What's some of your best childhood memories?
What's your favorite holiday? Who do you spend it with? & why?
Who's your best friend? What do you do when your together?

For more on Chapman's work: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy