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Sky Murphy

Getting back to Home Base

I'm back after a long absence while I was moving my home from
Phoenix, AZ to San Luis Obispo, CA. It was far from a seamless
with lots of bumps and pots holes that eventually led to this
beautiful home that I'm writing from now. In the whole process I
experienced a lot of yearning, yearning for it to be done & over with.

Finding "The One" isn't instant happiness all the time, as some
might expect, it's the answer to a question. People spend hours,
days, weeks, months, yearning to find "The One" only to reject
anyone who isn't pure happiness 100% of the time. Sorry kids
all your unhappiness doesn't disappear in a magic moment.

Yearning and wanting can be one of the toughest parts of dating and
relationships. There's a tendency to get caught up in "I deserve to
have...." or "Why can't they just...." where it's easier feel justified than
to face reality. When people are not able to face reality they often
either give up too soon or punish their partner.

The reality of your partner needs to be recognized, what they want,
how they're motivated, and what is normal for them. Punishing your
partner for not living up to your expectations can hurt you as much
or more than it might hurt them. The negative self talk will infiltrate
your thoughts and can create a self constructed tailspin.

Partnerships are the intersection of two lives, neither life should be
destroyed in the process, yet a new union must be created. Human
evolution is centered around patterns, repetition, and rhythm. It
takes many weeks and months to establish the baseline of intimacy
that many think they "deserve" in the first two or three weeks.

When the bumps and pot holes hit your partnership, come back to
what you are happy about or appreciate in your partner first. Make
it clear what you value about your union in a positive way. Let the
yearning take a back seat to what you really agree on as partners.

Have Fun & Be Awesome

Sky Murphy

Quick Feng Shui Upgrade to do this Weekend! I did #1-#9 :-)

This is directly from Karen Ranch Carter's Newsletter.

You can Join her community here: www.lifewithzing.com!

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2. MY TOP TEN LIST FOR A QUICK CHI UPGRADE

Many people are reporting feeling overwhelmed, broke, and stuck in their online questions to me, so I thought I’d keep it real simple this month. Here’s my top ten list of things that you can do today, or over the next few days, to give your energy a little boost, which may be just the thing to get back in the flow again. My top ten to-do’s to fluff up your chi today are:

To clear areas where chi arrives:

1. Sweep off your porch or front door step and wipe down the door.

2. Wash your mailbox inside and out.

3. Clean all telephones - landline and cellular.

To clean away weak chi:

4. Wash out all trash cans.

5. Go through your refrigerator and remove any rotting foods, wash off all the shelves.

6. Cut off any dead leaves on any houseplants.

To make space for newly-arrived chi:

7. Remove all stray items from the floors.

8. Clean off the home office desk.

9. Delete or re-file all emails in your inbox.

And to put the cherry on top:

10. Organize your “junk drawer” (if you have multiple, the one most often visited.)

With the time you spend doing this with intentions of taking charge of your situation, you’ll be banking good chi that you can use to get things rolling again. And always remember to have fun with it because that’s just more chi-gathering for you!

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Get the Karen Ranch Carter's advice here! www.lifewithzing.com

Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

When should I Call? & What should I say? 2 of dating's biggest questions

Over the last three days I've heard from a lot of Ladies about not getting
called back after the 3rd or 4th date.

They said, "I think it's over because I didn't hear from him again"

I said, "Did you call him?"

They said, "No, I was waiting for him to call. If he likes me he'd call."

This one of biggest mistakes of dating!!!

If you've only had 3-4 dates you are not his biggest priority. Hopefully
he had a social, work, and spiritual life before he met you. The Man
has things to do people to see.

Yes Ladies, you can call the man.

You can Call them Once a Week to say "Hello".
Not "Where the hell have you been!!"

It's not cool to verbally attack a man for not calling you. Being passive
aggressive isn't okay either. You may feel like he "owes" you, please be
aware everyone make mistakes and gets too busy. Be fun, be inviting,
keep the sunny side up.

You can Call them up to Invite them out.
Not "You're the man so you should have a plan"

If you want to see him again, call with an flexible idea or plan. Yes, he
might already have plans, it's not the end of the world. Stay positive,
be disappointed, but don't take it as "it's over". Wait a week, if he's still
on your mind try again with a new plan.

Bottom Line: If you like him, call him :-)

Dream Big!

Sky Murphy

Keep you Manhood & Be Romantic at the same time: 3 quick tips

Look Gentlemen, Ladies require some time and effort. It's just
the nature of Women to have a lot going on and be more
complex than anything else you'll encounter today.

Here's some tips to navigate the unpredictable ride that is
romantic relationships:

1) Get yourself some "Man Time" after work.
You need time to unwind your body and mind after your busy
day at work. Take 20-40 minutes to do something you LOVE
when you get home. Play video games, shoot some hoops, play
YOUR music loud and rock out. Take care of you first. Let her
know you need "Man Time" and will be ready for her in 30 min.

2) Listen to her talk and rant about her day next.
She may sound like she's complaining but she'll really checking
to see if she has your emotional support. Listen and be sympathetic,
let her get all her pent up emotions out. It doesn't matter if you think
her emotions are valid, just encourage her to go over the top. If she
feels like she has vented and you've listened, then she'll relax.

3) Assert your Authority during Small Decisions.
Be clear, Be direct, and take the Lead. Women love Leaders, they
love men in uniform, they fall for the bad boy that tells them "how
things are going to go down". So on "little" things like dinner, movies,
sex, shopping, and where to sit, TAKE CHARGE. Show your confidence,
flex your muscles a little, get "Macho" and be a Leader.

Yes, there are times for deep talks and teamwork, but that's only some
times, not all the time. Let yourself be masculine and assertive with what
you want and INVITE her to join you. Show her she can trust you and your
decisions. Ultimately she wants to know that "you have her back."

Live Big & Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

Change your style, Change your life: Where to start before you hire a matchmaker.

For Ladies or Men out there that want to start attracting a
different kind of person often you need to start with your
"look". What you'll put on to go out and what you should
put on are often completely different styles.

Because people are naturally are very visual... It all starts
with appearance. Before they'll even start considering you
as a contender you must look your best!

Here's where I'd spend money:

Your Style: Hire a clothing stylist to revamp your evening
& going out wear. Let them know who you want to attract
and get the appropriate evening wear to go with it. Go
over the top, let them change your style. No more T-Shirts
or plain clothes.

Great Jeans: At least 1 pair of awesome ($80+) jeans
that make your butt look awesome:-) Spend the bucks
for an drop dead butt. 2nd Hand stores often have some
awesome brands at a discount too.

Your Hair: Go to a professional hairdresser get a brand
new "look". Do something different, be open to a new style,
bring a friend if you're worried about making mistake. New
color, New cut = New You.

(Yes Men get their hair colored too)

Highly Sexy Underwear: A huge plus is great under clothing.
Make yourself a sexy theme park under there. Have a great
feature attraction that someone would want to open.

Your Body: I'd get as fit as possible, like the best shape of
your life. Make time for bootcamp or classes at the gym.
Even go to weight watchers if you know you need to drop
5 to 10 lbs. Get your body fat down to under 15% for Men
and 20% for women. Once you get it there it's easy to
maintain, the hard work is getting there.

I know this stuff can be a big leap...

But attracting the love of your life is an important job!

Your current look isn't getting you what you want, get that
switched up and you'll see different people notice you.

People are superficial, it's dumb but true.

Good Luck!

Sky Murphy

Q&A on Coaching and some shortcuts to get started on now.

Question: I think I might want a coach, How much does a session normally cost?

Cost: Coaches cost the whole scale from $40 - $200 per 30min session
Just depends on experience & specialty

My prices are...
1 session: $125 for 45min session
6 sessions: $630 for 6 - 45min sessions
12 sessions: $1100 for 12 -45 min sessions

Question: what does a person usually look for as a result of coaching?

Results: Most clients I work with have a project. Like...
Getting through a divorce
Writing a book
Starting a business
Having less stress
Get a new job
Change careers

A typical client works with me 12 -24 sessions to finish a project.

Question: I'm feeling motivated but really stuck and not sure if I am doing everything to continue on my path. I'm not ready to buy sessions right now where do I start on my own?

To get a head start on the coaching process start establishing a clear objective to focus on.

I'd check out:
"Getting things done" by David Allen
http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1248796328&sr=8-1

It's a great place start and super cheap! You don't have to do things exactly "his" way, but developing your own similar system can really take your life to a new high. (You may need to recruit your life partner to participate too)

Also, personality types help guide people towards "their path"
take this test...
http://similarminds.com/advtest.html

Then google your type. Knowing your type can give you great guidelines on what to do next and what to stay away from.

For example: I'm a type 7, I'm great at short projects and bad at long projects. So any job I take on needs to have a "short" completion time or I get to pass it on to someone else to maintain it.

Knowing my natural patterns helps me stay in my happy productive space and makes some decisions much easier.

Any other questions?

Be Awesome :-)

Sky Murphy

Stress Busting your Dilemmas the likes, wants, and needs that drive you crazy

Imagine if I placed a list of all the decisions you will make tomorrow
in front of you and asked you to turn it in before bed tonight. That list
would be full of thousands if not millions of little decisions. The
majority of those are so small that they feel more like habits or even
conclusions than choices.

Not all decisions are stressful, most you can make in your sleep. Stress
is attached to the decisions that you believe are Dilemmas rather than
simple choices.

Something I picked up from engineering is going for 80% of perfection,
at most going for 90%, because the last 10-20% often comes at too high
of a cost. Gaining perfection is significantly overrated 95% of the time.

Which brings us to your likes, wants, and needs.

The easiest way to get this concept is to write down your to do list. Not
just today's list, I mean the big list, all the stuff you're keeping track of
that "needs" to get done or that you've been procrastinating on.

1) Go ahead, take a minute to write it down you total "To Do" list. It
might take 5-10 minutes to get it all out. Just go till your brain empties
out three times, your list will be close enough by then.

2) So now notice and separate out what you could do this week and
what's not ready yet or too far out to do now. Separate them into two
different lists. "This Week" & "Not Ready"

3) Take the "Not Ready" list and break it out into "Early August" "Mid
August" "Late August" and then "Early September" and so forth until
Mid to late October. Give every one of the "Not Ready" tasks a date
even if you might be wrong about it, they each need a start/end date.

4) Put each group of "Not Ready" tasks in your calendar for "Early",
"Middle", and "Late" parts of the month. Do it in a way you feel good
about it and deeply know you will accomplish those tasks at that
appropriate time.

Breathe Deep and really let the "Not Ready" stuff go. You don't need
to keep track of those anymore. They've been identified and put in
their place. You can go back and check them anytime.

If you're wondering... Those were your wants. You'll get them, just
not going to get them today.

5) Take the "This week" list, separate it into "today" and "not today".
Take the "today" list and make a "Must do" list, "Want to" list and
a "Like to" list.

Any item that will take less than 5 minutes put it at the top of the
"Must do" list. Any item in the "Like to" list that's more that 60
minutes move to "not today".

All of your "today's" are your actual "Needs"

Trust yourself, you made the right decision.

6) Place "Not today" list in your calendar for tomorrow. Makes sure
you can actually forget about it till tomorrow. If you can't move it
back up.

All of your "Not Today's" were your "likes".

7) Last Part, give yourself a "I'm done for the day" time. It might be
4pm, 6:30pm, 9pm (whatever works for you). This is a time you will
stop working and start relaxing.

Everybody needs time to Recharge :-)

Now get to it!

Be Awesome :-)

Sky Murphy

Stress Busting - 5 Fundimental Steps of Everyday life for Less Stress

What I do for other people, I also do for myself. A very large and common
life complaint is too much stress. To make this clear...

You create ALL of your own stress!

No one causes or increases or adds to your stress, you are the total and
complete owner/creator of your life.

Without going too deep, here's 5 ways that you can live differently and
make a dramatic reduction in your stress levels...

1) Arrive 5-10 minutes Early to Every Meeting and Appointment. One
of the best ways to arrive on time is to be there early. How would you
feel if you knew you'd always were going to be there with plenty of time
to spare?

2) Always have some enjoyable Entertainment with you. That could
be as simple as loading a game on your phone, music to listen to, a book
you like to read. Waiting is so much easier when it's "fun time".

3) Every 3-4 hours Eat at least 100 calories. Babies eat about every
2-3 hours our adults bodies aren't much different. Your body is happiest
when it gets fed a little bit frequently. It only takes about 30-60 seconds.

4) Plan some "Downtime" after work each day. You'd expect a football
player to rest after a game. Your brain and body need time to recharge
too. After recharging you're much more emotionally & physically ready
for a great evening and next day.

5) Be Passionate about your future. Why are you living through today?
What makes today "worth it"? What's on the other side of your rainbow?
Make it good, Make it wonderful, Get behind your own dreams.

Take Care of You & be Awesome

Sky Murphy

Your Feng Shui Career Zone: The North Room of your House

For great and easy Feng Shui we would all have square floor plans and
detached garages. Most of us have chunky, rectangles that are randomly
placed together to form a square.

So in your house, go to the center of your North most wall...
(You may have parts of your house that are "more north"
if so part of your career zone is outside too. )

Welcome to your Career Zone!
What's here? Is it stuff you like? Things you're proud of?

In the Career Zone...
You Want:
Mirrors, Glass, Metal, Blue, Green, Black, Round Shapes

Ideal For:
A Water Feature & A Fish Tank w/ 9 gold fish

Don't Want:
Candles, Fireplaces, Earth, Red, Orange, Brown, Pointy Shapes

If you have a TV here, keep it small, otherwise what you watch or play
will become more like a career than a hobby. In general, anything
you store or keep in this section will start to feel like your career. So, if
you're looking for more focus or a new career place things that represent
it here.

If you have a closet here, tidy it up! Make it something you're proud of.

If part of this zone is outside, it's best if it's a water feature or a patio with
metal furniture. Just like you might not like spinach the career zone does
not like earth and Fire.

If your career is struggling, make sure this section feels, alive, vibrant and
cool. For me, it's our living room, so we covered the couch with blue
blankets, and got green and blue pillow cases. We switched out the wood
coffee table for a round glass and metal one from IKEA. And we moved the
Cat Tree to the skills section.

Go Take a Look at your Career Zone, I bet you'll have an light bulb moment!

Sky Murphy

Enneagram Type 4: The Creative Artist Drama Queen Romantic Type

The Enneagram is my hands down favorite personality typing system.

The quick and simple guide to this topic is: "Are you my Type, Am
I Yours?" by Baron & Wagele. You can find it everywhere.

With 9 different types, about 1/9 of the population would be considered
"type 4" which is known as the "Romantic" or someone with a lot of
emotional ups & downs. You might think of them as the drama queen
in your social circle or the person who always has a new dramatic story.

Type 4's are brilliant artists, able to feel and express emotions to depths
most of us can't imagine. Their job in this world is to help us feel and
realize our own emotions, to help us get carried away in the moment.
They have a deep need to express themselves verbally, visually, physically,
whatever way helps them feel "Known". Many performers are this type.

With a "Type 4"....

What to Expect:
Type 4's wanting Deep Intense Experiences
Feeling Pushed Away then Pulled Back
Extremely Beautiful Creative Talent
Huge Reactions to Everyday Happenings

What not to expect:
Keeping Opinions to Themselves
Being able to laugh off negative gossip
Having a Mundane Task/Job/Career
Only talking about "Happy" topics

On a Good Day:
Organized, Objective, Dominant

On a Stressed Day:
Codependent, Manipulative, Needing Attention

How to Get Along Well:
Show your Love Often
Don't try to "fix" them or their feelings
Be Honest about how they Affect you
Appreciate their Creativity
Let them Express their Intense Feelings

Do you have a Type 4 in your life?

Keep your eyes and ears open!

Sky Murphy

Enneagram Type 7: Follow the bouncy optimistic Tigger

The Enneagram Personality Type 7 is probably my favorite, most likely
because I am a Type 7. Imagine Tigger in Winne the Pooh, always hopping
and bobbing around, usually causing some chaos too. I love Type 7's so
much I even married one too!

The main fear of a type 7 is boredom, therefore they are often found in
a flurry of events often testing the boundaries for activity capacity. Most
often they indulge in gluttonous behaviors, maximizing the pleasure.
Driven by excitement and adventure they're frequently know for leaping
off cliffs without looking. Shiny objects are everywhere and heaven forbid
a type 7 would miss one.

Some of the challenges with type 7's are trying to get one to slow down
or to catch up to one, often they are overbooked or hard to reach. Another
challenge is they don't know how to be sad/upset, it's terribly
uncomfortable and they'll find something "better" to do pretty quickly. It
can be hard for them to admit things are not well or process darker emotions.

With Type 7's...

What to Expect:
Lots of new ideas and new activities
Boundless Energy and wanting to Go Go Go
Many Gadgets or Entertaining ways to spend time
A busy schedule with lots of changes
Ignoring Thresholds or "Limitations"

What Not to Expect:
Lots of Commitment after initial excitement
Detailed Long Term follow through
Deep expression of sad/angry feelings
Ability to slow down and smell the roses
Type 7's to Follow the Rules/Guidelines

On a good Day:
Balancing the pros & cons, focused, seeing systems/patterns

On a Stressed Day:
Seeks out Right/Wrong, Driven by Status, Obsessively Rigid

How to Get Along Well:
Ask them to Slow Down when they're Unintelligible
Give them options when making Decisions
Include Fun or Rewards when making plans
Let them know there's a "Cliff" Ahead
Give yourself breaks if it's too much

Do you have a Type 7 in your Life?

Fasten your seat belt!

Sky Murphy

The Achievers that burn the midnight oil...

Enneagram Personality "type 3" is the "Achiever". This is the person
that stops at nothing to get what they want. Extremely competitive it
would be easy to label them "Type A", a "Go getter", or a "Ladder
Climber". Physically I notice that a "type 3" Lady always have matching
clothing (shoes, pants, shirt, etc) and look well put together at all times.

The Achievers are usually extremely pleasant people, able to really
connect one on one. They aim high, so if they belong to an organization
they quickly find a way into leadership or to win an award. Type 3's
make grand plans and then follow through to see them all come to full
fruition.

You might imagine they're always on the go like a type 7, but a type 7 is
doing this for their own entertainment, where a type 3 has an agenda
they must achieve. They're easily frustrated when others don't cooperate
or behave to their expectations and flexibility is not their forte. Looking
their best is most important to them, so don't risk making them look bad.

For Type 3's...

What to Expect:
They are always on the Go!
Involved in many professional/social networks
Making plans for other people
Awards, Achievements, Top Marks

What Not to Expect:
Leaving the house looking less than their best
Allowing you to slack off around them or in Life
Handling criticism with a cool clam demeanor
Talking about their weaknesses

On a Good Day:
They're a Team Player, Social, Poke holes in others/your plans

On a Stressed day:
They're Scattered, Unreliable, overly agreeable

How to Get Along:
Ask them what they envision for others or groups
Give them plenty of believable praise and compliments
Collaborate with them on a project
Suggest Small Improvements rather than criticize
Let them in on your point of View

Do you have an Achiever "Type 3" in your life?

Get on their Team!

Have Fun

Sky Murphy

Are you Star Smacked?

I know 90% of you will probably never believe me, but a lot of
"Bad Luck" is really a bad astrology day. Two or more planets at
a bad angle with each other.

No it's not voodoo magic, it's a lot of complex geometry using fancy
computers and many many many years of collected data. The Moon
is big enough affect the high and low tides of the oceans, you're not
any exception to the rules of gravity either.

Negative events are caused by negative thoughts, that's not true?
No not always and heavy metal listeners aren't all depressed and
broke either. You have control on how you respond and react to
events but not all events are your fault. You're simply not that
powerful, most likely you can't stop an earthquake or plane crash
with positive thoughts.

What about all this "you create your own destiny" stuff?
Yes, I believe that accounts for about 70% of your success and about
30% is influenced by astrology. Life is about both taking personal
action AND being influenced by universal feedback.

What if I've always have a bad Valentine's Day, is that Astrology?
It definitely could be. The Sun has an extremely regular orbit so yes
you have predetermined "Bad Luck" days every year. On those days
it's better to lighten you load and keep things easy.

I've always had a Bad time in Texas, are there bad luck states?
Yes, you do have locations that are "Bad Luck" for you. Also you have
"good luck" locations too. Every time you relocate, like 100 miles or
more, your personal astrology changes a little bit or even a lot depending
on the change. Just like if you take a picture of a tree from three different
location you'll get three different pictures.

Um, okay, I've got a case "bad luck", Can I fix it?
I have to say Maybe but you can make your life easier. Astrologers can
tell you your bad luck days and locations so you can plan around them.
Ronald Reagan was famous for using as astrologer to plan his presidency,
you can use one too. Another fix is to renew your wedding vows or create
a new LLC for your business, both can add major positive influences for
much more "good luck" in your life.

So Sky, what do you do?
I create a personal calender and map for you so you know well ahead of
time when your "good luck" and "bad luck" days are likely to happen. That
way you can plan your meetings, parties, and vacations on your neutral or
"good luck" days and plan to lay low on your "bad luck" days.

If you're interested in knowing more write me at SkyMurphyPhx@gmail.com.

Have Fun & Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

Quick method to do an "Integrity Check"

As a Coach my work doesn't stop after the call or face-to-face meeting,
I've got my homework to do too.

For me the easiest way do an "integrity check" is to use the Feng Shui
Baguas to keep track of the various parts of my life. This is what I've
done recently for each one to keep myself in integrity. Making this list
helps me acknowledge what I've done to move my life forward.

Helpful People & Travel:
I've Prayed and Been Actively Manifesting in the Mornings with Shawn
I've helped out my "mafia network" every morning with loot
Asked for and Received great help from @GuyKawasaki

Career:
Helped out friends & clients with Coaching issues
Created a Astrology lookup table for charts
Cleaned Fish Tank + Installed DVR

Skills & Knowledge:
Advanced my Twitter Skills x5!
Learned new buying strategies
Importance of Order & Beauty at all times

Family:
Put together Durable Power of Attorney
Put together Living Will
Sent off Birthday & Wedding Presents

Abundance:
Met with Bookkeeper and assessed our Books
Made decision on Money savings plans
Put $$ on our time and future plans

Fame:
Posted my blog with Twitterfeed
Posted pics on Facebook
Sent messages of goodwill to friends

Relationship:
Claimed a day for Fun "Us" Time
Called Friends I had been meaning to call
Indulged is some foodie yumminess

Creativity:
Got dress advice from girlfriends
Played Rockband & Mafia Wars
Turned on Mambo #5 for my Bath :-)

Health:
Took my Pro-biotics all the time
Did 2 healthy moderate workouts
Letting myself take it easy

What have you done for yourself lately?

Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

Shinny Spaklely Syndrome... Let's have More Fun!

The Enneagram Personality Type 7 is probably my favorite, most likely
because I am a Type 7. Imagine Tigger in Winne the Pooh, always hopping
and bobbing around, usually causing some chaos too. I love Type 7's so
much I even married one too!

The main fear of a type 7 is boredom, therefore they are often found in
a flurry of events often testing the boundaries for activity capacity. Also,
frequently know for leaping off cliffs without looking. Shiny objects are
everywhere and heaven forbid a type 7 would miss one. Often Type 7's
are good improvisers and can come up with zillions of ideas.

Some of the challenges with type 7's are trying to get one to slow down
or to catch up to one, often they are overbooked or hard to reach. Another
challenge is they don't know how to be sad/upset, it's terribly
uncomfortable and they'll find something "better" to do pretty quickly. It
can be hard for them to admit things are not well or process darker emotions.

With Type 7's...

What to Expect:
Lots of new ideas and new activities
Boundless Energy and wanting to Go Go Go
Many Gadgets or Entertaining ways to spend time
A busy schedule with lots of changes
Ignoring Thresholds or "Limitations"

What Not to Expect:
Lots of Commitment after initial excitement
Detailed Long Term follow through
Deep expression of sad/angry feelings
Ability to slow down and smell the roses
Type 7's to Follow the Rules/Guidelines

On a good Day:
Balancing the pros & cons, focused, seeing systems/patterns

On a Stressed Day:
Seeks out Right/Wrong, Driven by Status, Obsessively Rigid

How to Get Along Well:
Ask them to Slow Down when they're Unintelligible
Give them options when making Decisions
Include Fun or Rewards when making plans
Let them know there's a "Cliff" Ahead
Give yourself breaks if it's too much

Do you have a Type 7 in your Life?

Fasten your seat belt!

Sky Murphy

Who's your Drama Queen?

The Enneagram is my hands down favorite personality typing system.

The quick and simple guide to this topic is: "Are you my Type, Am
I Yours?" by Baron & Wagele. You can find it everywhere.

With 9 different types, about 1/9 of the population would be considered
"type 4" which is known as the "Romantic" or someone with a lot of
emotional ups & downs. You might think of them as the drama queen
in your social circle or the person who always has a new dramatic story.

Type 4's are brilliant artists, able to feel and express emotions to depths
most of us can't imagine. Their job in this world is to help us feel and
realize our own emotions, to help us get carried away in the moment.
They have a deep need to express themselves verbally, visually, physically,
whatever way helps them feel "Known". Many performers are this type.

With a "Type 4"....

What to Expect:
Type 4's wanting Deep Intense Experiences
Feeling Pushed Away then Pulled Back
Extremely Beautiful Creative Talent
Huge Reactions to Everyday Happenings

What not to expect:
Keeping Opinions to Themselves
Being able to laugh off negative gossip
Having a Mundane Task/Job/Career
Only talking about "Happy" topics

On a Good Day:
Organized, Objective, Dominant

On a Stressed Day:
Codependent, Manipulative, Needing Attention

How to Get Along Well:
Show your Love Often
Don't try to "fix" them or their feelings
Be Honest about how they Affect you
Appreciate their Creativity
Let them Express their Intense Feelings

Do you have a Type 4 in your life?

Keep your eyes and ears open!

Sky Murphy

What is a Life Coach?

Wiki: Coaching is a method of directing, instructing and training a
person or group of people, with the aim to achieve some goal.

They're many different styles of coaching and many different techniques
that coaches learn to help their clients. I was trained at The Coaches
Training Institute in California and obtained my CPCC.

We had three main Focuses there:

Fulfillment - Brings forth what drives you forward, what motivates
you, and what terrifies you. It's the amplification of everything that
you are. Also, it puts you in touch with your future and brings you
closer to it.

Balance - We all have limitations and boundaries, there's only so
much we can do in a day/week/month. Balance is about what to do
and when. More Importantly it's about attitude and what character
you're bringing to your "doing".

Process - There's deep emotional places in all of us, they may not
make sense but they still can drive us down and control our lives.
Process creates a deep safe space to let those emotions unravel and
let go of your life.

As a coach I see myself as a butt kicker. I care more about your
happiness, your success, your learning, your inspiration that you
can possibly imagine. It's about being real about what "is", the reality
of your world, and working from there.

I must admit I'm not fond of the word "coach" because the job it's so
much more. Mentor, Springboard, Witness, Motivator, Recognizer,
Organizer, and Leader.

Most of all it's Love. Wanting and Being the best for my clients.

Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

What's your Love Language?

Book Review -> "The Five Love Languages"

I feel that Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" is one of
universal standards for understanding yourself and the
people around you. It makes simple distinctions between
actions and the way different people perceive them.

Basically, he breaks down Love into Five Categories of
action that we all yearn for in some degree. We each have
a primary and secondary language, ways in which we truly
enjoy and receive love and count it as true affection.

When you receive love in YOUR language you really feel
Loved and often you expect others to express their love
in your language too.

Here are his categories:

Words of Affection: Hearing or being complemented
on your best features, best actions or just that you are loved.
You feel appreciated and recognized for who you are.

Quality Time: Spending time with others talking about
deep/complex topics or doing activities together as a team.
You feel deeply connected when you have quality time.

Receiving Gifts: Getting gifts has special meaning to you
and often you treasure them as evidence that you are loved
and who you are loved by. You might look at your gifts to
remind yourself that you are loved.

Acts of Service: You know you are loved when someone
helps you with a task or does a task for you. Their help
proves to you that they deep care for your well being and
will be therefor you in a time of need.

Physical Touch: When you are hugged, held, or touched
you feel a sense of relief and safety. When you are touched
you know you are loved and things are okay for now.

Just notice:
Which Languages you resonate with...
Which Languages you give to others frequently...
Which Languages others give to you often...
Which Languages seem "strange" or "odd"

The people in your life you feel close to probably share at least
one Language with you. Often people that are hard to "get" are
expressing love in a foreign Language and the way they say "I
Like You" isn't getting translated they way they expect it to.

Look for Languages in answers to these questions:
What's some of your best childhood memories?
What's your favorite holiday? Who do you spend it with? & why?
Who's your best friend? What do you do when your together?

For more on Chapman's work: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

Be Awesome!

Sky Murphy

Getting Clear on... Who you Are vs. What you do

Self Knowledge is the beginning of the inner journey,
separating who you are from what you do. This
fundamental distinction and the ability to comprehend
the difference is what creates sustainable success and
forward momentum.

For example, I've traveled 4 continents so far with the
intention of making all 7 in my lifetime. What I do is
travel and explore, who I am is restless, persistent,
and curious.

I can count on my restlessness to take me to new places,
I always have it, I always am it. Siting on the sidelines
isn't an option, I'll take up underwater basket weaving
or humongous bubble blowing. I am restless.

I believe in focusing on magnifying the "Am" part, otherwise
know as a persons strengths. Yes, I'm all for lopsided people
doing the best they can at what they're good at. It's a focus
on the freedom to be who you are and staying "On Type".
When people embrace this part of themselves the glow :-)

This is where personality typing and Astrology come into
play in identifying a person's strengths and who they are.
It's shortcut, rather than going on a vision quest, there is
education and books, no needs to reinvent the wheel.

Be your strengths, not your job.
Be yourself, not well behaved.
Be alive, not routine.

Be your "Am"

Sky Murphy

Why you should use Meetup.com

While facebook and twitter are connecting people through
the internet, meetup.com is bringing people together face
to face. It's sort of the craigslist of social groups.

Today, there's groups for hiking, guitar playing, nerd, tarot
reading, networking, quickbooks, camping, biker rally, board
game, yoga, dancing, scrap booking, wine tasting, volleyball,
singles, improv, and that's all before 7pm!

If you'd like to meet new and interesting people... http://meetup.com

Because these are internet based groups, they expect newcomers,
they know you're out there looking for them and will show up
at their meeting one day.

Best of all most of these groups are FREE!

Check it out this weekend & feel free to check out my group :-)
Becoming Unsingle: http://singles.meetup.com/899/

Happy Friday!

Sky Murphy

Creating more Support by Giving Support

In BNI we had a saying... "Givers Gain"

This is true in pretty much any relationship, you're going
to gain more from a relationship when you give to it. When
you're looking for more support, it's important to start
giving more support too.

Here's the trick, you get to choose who you give your support
to but not who you get your support from. That's right, if
you choose to support your S.O. or Family Member they may
not choose to support you back. We are relying on the laws of
good karma to return that support back to you.

Yes, give your support and let go of a particular person giving
it back AND Trust that you'll get the support you need when
you need it.

It's easiest to support the people you already Know & Love.
Your Best Friends, your Family, your favorite Athlete, Movie
Star, Author or Artist.

Become a fan of these people.
Love them
Enjoy Them
Talk to them
Message them

If you're too busy to be a fan of your people...
you'll find people might be too busy to support you.

Have Fun & Play Hard

Sky Murphy

Be The Mighty You! Past, Present & Future

Still focusing in on fame, let's narrow in on what makes
you famous. Sure, everyone is famous something. I'm sure
in the past you were famous, now you're famous, and in
the future you'll be famous too.

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Breaking it down:

Past Famous:
What were you famous for?
What were your accomplishments?
What was your personal style?
What was your signature?

Current Famous:
How are you larger than Life?
What are your items of Flare?
Who is your posse?
What do you provide that's needed?

Future Famous:
(Take a moment to embrace your Wildest Fantasies...)
(That's right just let them take over... the wild and crazy ones)

What will you do that's unbelievable?
That thing you really want to do but don't believe you ever will.

What will you look like when you're doing it?
Bold? Confident? Crazy? Sexy? Wealthy?

How will this completely change your life?

Who or what will you inspire?

What's a good nickname for that famous future self?

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See that was Fun :-)

No harm done with a little wild & craziness... just imagination :-)

To make this real, bring part of this future famousness into
your life, it could be a haircut, a poster, a new friend or
mentor. Whatever makes this future famous more real,
include that.

Dream On!

Sky Murphy

Got a Big Meeting Today?

Need a little Extra Power for your Power Meeting?
Then it's time to up your Fame Section!

A little bit about the Fame section of your house/room:

1) It's in the center 1/3 of the South Wall in your House
*For me that's the West wall of the Master Bedroom &
the Master Bathroom & the East Wall of our Media Room

2) Place as Many Red Candles in that Section as possible without
overwhelming the space, use wooden or clay holders & be practical.
*lighting candles is better but not necessary to amplify the section

3) Clean and Straighten your Fame Area. Get it neat, tidy, and
respectable, have it be a reflection of how you want to be seen.
*This for both Upstairs & Downstairs if it's a two story

4) Remove anything with water, blue, black, glass, or metal.
*If this is a bathroom, add extra red, red towels, red wall,
red posters, etc (our shower scrubby is red)

5) Move your Diploma, Credentials, Letter of Recommendations,
and/or Thank you notes to this area.

Dream Big!

Sky Murphy